What are you? I mean, when you sit down and think about how you would describe yourself, what would you say? And how do you feel about your answer?
I have a couple answers to that question. These are not in order of importance in my life - probably more in the order of how much time is spent with them.
1. I am a teacher. I love my job. I get to work with teens who are on the precipice of the rest of their lives, many trying to decide how to best prepare themselves for the adventure ahead. I push them, encourage them, teach them responsibility and have a grand time laughing and teasing with them in the process. I have really enjoyed the group of kids I have this year, inspite of some of their decisions, the new challenges thrown at teachers in our district and everything.
2. I am a mom. I'm having so much fun with my kids. They are getting old enough where my role isn't as much the daily hands-on survival thing and more the encourage, motivate, assist, discuss phase. We cang et out and do fun things, and since we moved into town, I have seen these kids develop social skills and friendships that I wondered if they could ever truly have. I have seen the joy in their lives from successes in a school where they are thriving, developing their individual talents, realizing life isn't always playing but that happiness can still be found through the work.
3. I am a writer. I recently read that saying I was an aspiring writer was basically shooting myself in the foot. It's like being an aspiring mom or wife or teacher - if it is something just aspired to, it is given the opportunity to stay a wish or a dream. I am attending a conference in May where I signed up to have experienced authors assist in improving my current novel, pitch it to a literary agent and take two days of classes that will help improve my writing, take it to the next level both in what I am able to write and getting it out of my hands and into the hands of readers. I aspired for three years - no more.
4. I am a wife. I ADORE my husband. We are connecting, figuring things out, improving our communication and have both reprioritized our lives with the intent to make each other more importnat. Yes, we still have our individual pursuits, but in some ways, I think that is what has helped strengthen our relationship. I can honestly say that in my marriage, I am the happiest I have ever been (12 1/2 years if you are wondering).
That's it. I am for things. Do I do other tasks, have other jobs, etc? Of course - we all do. But if any of those things are getting in the way of these four, I cut frivolous things to take care of that ASAP and get back to these four. I quit trying to be everything to everyone - it's just not feasible - really. If you don't believe me - trust her...
“We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives. We have to
decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is
comfortable for us. We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to
prove something. We have to learn to be content with what we are.”