Tuesday, April 27, 2010

The Mystery Date

Enoch and I have really been trying to find time to date each other lately. We agreed to follow this idea (but did not sign the contract) to do a date a week, most of them at home after the kids have gone to bed, alternating who is in charge and just watching TV does not count. Last week, we got invited by my sister and her husband to go play at the local golf course.
I took 20 strokes off of my game and hit a 70 instead of a 90 - aren't you impressed!!!

Okay, we only played nine holes. Probably shouldn't make that call to the LPGA yet...

Anyway, last week was my week and I thought I would tie it in with the date of the month that Enoch selected (for March...yea, got a little behind) which was the mystery date.

When I put that option for him, I thought it sounded like lots of fun, but then when it came time to actually implement it, I struggled. What was the mystery, how much, how could I pull it off, etc. Then, epiphany came from here and I gave him a piece of paper where he had to pick one out of each of the following pairs of choices.

Hot/Cold
Sword/Whip
High/Low
Light/Dark

Needless to say, the sword/whip choice had him VERY confused, but that's part of the fun, right? So, after he made his selections, I started him out on the date (a week later).

I gave him an envelope that was sealed and gave some instructions for him to drive to a particular location. (Drive down Midvalley and then Minersville, getting on to I-15 going south, exit when you can see the lighthouse, turn right at the light, turn right again as soon as you can, enter the location with a girl surrounded in green, upon entering, open the envelope and follow the instructions).
I put a ten dollar bill and my order for caramel apple cider with whipped cream and told him to order what he wanted. Then return home. (HOT)

Then, when we had finished our drinks, we broke out the game controllers and played a level of Lego Indiana Jones. (WHIP)
For those of you with inquiring minds, the sword was Lego Star Wars...:)

He then got a really good, long, relaxing back massage (HIGH - low would have been feet)

For the last one he selected dark.

Moving on.

It turned out to be really fun, and cost me $5.00 plus the gas for him to drive in and back out. The kids were in bed the whole time and it was fun to just hang out and have fun like we used to "way back in the day." I know there are many who are frustrated with things in their lives, and we (men & women) tend to take things out on our spouses. But when you were dating, did you? We know there is stress, but try this idea - shoot for once a week, but if you need to start with once a month, it's better than nothing. It's nice to remember on a regular basis how to have fun with your spouse. And it doesn't have to cost a gajillion dollars either.

All the links in this post have amazing ideas on how to have fun, rekindle the romance and keep it very under budget, regardless of what your budget is.

10 comments:

Mellissa said...

I loved this post! I'm glad to know someone else out there doesn't mind playing a bit of Lego Star Wars/Indiana Jones/Batman with their spouse! And the idea is great. With Ben and me both in school, finding time is virtually impossible, so this was very helpful! Thanks for the laugh there at the end! ;)

marie said...

How simple but yet how fun! I love the mystery part of it ... makes things more interesting. :)

Erin said...

Coooooooll!!!!!!

chereemoore said...

love, love, love the idea of mystery dates... gonna have to do this type of date some time. thanks for sharing!

Marian said...

Love the idea of having the hubby choose the words. Great way to build a little suspense! Sounds like was fun!

David said...

Glad to hear you had fun with the Decisions Decisions date idea, that's one of the more popular ones. (try 43 Kisses or Rubs & Touches next time)

Thanks for the kind words and link back Tasha.

Dave

Harmony said...

Fun and inspiring! Thanks Tash.

Harmony said...

I just saw an ad for Bing that made me think of the choices you gave Enoch. The ad said:

East or West (Orient vs. US/Europe?)
Window or aisle (restaurant vs. grocery store?
4 star or billions of stars (hotel vs. camping)

Your choices were more doable. :-)

Pam said...

Simple and lots of fun! I'm going to have to use this (general) idea next time I'm in charge of a date! :)

Tiffany said...

what an awesome date idea! don't be surprised if i did something similar in may. :) thanks for sharing! glad you are joining us for Project 52: Date Nights!
tiffany {Simply Modern Mom}